Why Everything You Believe About Reality Becomes True (And How to Hack It)
I had the most mind-bending realization during my morning meditation today. The construction noise that usually drives me insane suddenly became... irrelevant. Not because it stopped, but because I finally understood something fundamental about reality itself.
[Writing this while the jackhammers continue outside, but somehow they've become part of the symphony now...]
The universe isn't just conscious — it's the ultimate shapeshifter, morphing to match whatever model of reality you're running in your consciousness. And here's the kicker: it's not lying to you. Every version is equally true.
The Egregore You're Surfing
Let me drop some reality transurfing wisdom on you that took me years to truly grok. Whatever truth you choose to believe becomes the way you experience reality. That's the egregore — the collective thought-form — that you're surfing with.
If you're a hardcore materialist, the universe will dutifully show you atoms and molecules and nothing but dead matter. Every synchronicity will appear as coincidence. Every mystical experience will have a neurological explanation. The universe becomes your perfect laboratory, confirming your hypothesis with every observation.
If you're a mystic, reality becomes alive with meaning. Synchronicities multiply like rabbits. Energy becomes palpable. The same coffee shop interaction that a materialist would call "good customer service" becomes an energetic dance of consciousness recognizing itself.
[Just noticed how even Schrödinger's cat seems to respond differently to me based on my state of consciousness. When I'm in flow, she becomes almost telepathic. When I'm stressed, she's just... a cat.]
Neither perspective is wrong. That's the cosmic joke. The universe has many faces, and it will always show you the one you're looking for.
The Pendulum's Hook
Here's where Vadim Zeland's Reality Transurfing model gets really juicy. He calls these collective thought-forms "pendulums" — and they're not neutral. They're energy vampires, feeding on your attention and emotional reactions.
Think about how this works:
Prices go up, you complain → You radiate negative energy → The pendulum of economic anxiety wins
You fear something obsessively → Your thought energy shifts to that frequency → You attract the very timeline you're trying to avoid
You feel guilty about something → You take actions to redeem yourself → The guilt pendulum keeps you hooked
The construction noise outside my window? That's a pendulum trying to hook me. If I identify with the obstacle ("This is ruining my concentration!"), it creates more obstacles. The quality of my thoughts matters more than their content.
[The jackhammer just stopped for a moment, as if taking a bow. Even pendulums appreciate being seen for what they are...]
The Alternative Space is Mara
In Buddhist cosmology, Mara is the demon of temptation and distraction. In reality transurfing, the "alternative space" contains all possible life lines — all the versions of reality you could experience.
Here's the connection that blew my mind: Mara IS the alternative space. All those potential realities trying to seduce you away from your true path? That's Mara showing you pendulums dressed up as possibilities.
Destructive pendulums literally train individuals away from their destiny. They create scripts that feel inevitable:
"I always attract the wrong partners"
"Money is hard to come by"
"I'm not the spiritual type"
Once you're vibrating at that frequency, the pendulum ensnares you in that lifeline. The stronger your desire to avoid something, the stronger you pull it toward you.
The Aikido of Consciousness
So how do you escape? This is where it gets beautifully paradoxical.
You have no right to judge or complain about anything. Reality is like walking through an art gallery — you wouldn't stand in front of a painting you dislike and rage at it for existing, demanding it change. You'd simply move on to the next piece. Every situation, every pendulum, every challenge is just another painting on display in the cosmic gallery of experience.
The construction noise? A painting. Your difficult coworker? Another painting. That recurring pattern in relationships? Just one more canvas hanging on the wall. They're all valid expressions of reality's infinite creativity, and you're the gallery visitor who gets to choose which ones to stand in front of and which ones to walk past.
Once you recognize a pendulum's right to exist — like acknowledging a painting's right to hang in the gallery even if it's not your style — you become free of it. To decline something, you must first accept its existence, then pass by indifferently.
If I am empty, there is nothing for the pendulum to hook onto.
The technique I've been practicing is almost like energetic aikido. When a pendulum swings at me (noise, irritation, fear), I can:
Pretend to engage but without emotional content
Respond with acceptance then step back
Replace the expected emotion with its opposite (confidence for fear, enthusiasm for gloom, silly joy for irritation)
[Someone just started drilling. Perfect timing. I'm going to practice what I preach and imagine the sound as a Tibetan singing bowl at a really low frequency...]
Breaking the Script with Crazy Wisdom
When you find yourself in a situation with a predictable script, do something unexpected. React with false enthusiasm or wacky delight. Be silly. This is the crazy wisdom tradition in action.
My favorite practice: Imagine what your opposition needs or is missing, then visualize them receiving it. Like the demon feeding practice in tantric chöd. The construction worker outside? I imagine him filled with the satisfaction of a job well done, going home to a loving family, feeling appreciated.
Suddenly, the noise doesn't hook me anymore.
Choosing Your Model Wisely
Here's the thing — if reality is going to mirror whatever model you're running, why not choose one that empowers you?
After years of experimenting with different reality models, I've found that a blend of tantric energy practices and reality transurfing principles creates the most generative experience. It acknowledges both the relative truth of daily life and the ultimate truth of consciousness as primary.
In this model:
Problems have simple solutions that already exist (you just need to get out of the way)
Energy is real and manageable
Consciousness is fundamental, not emergent
You can navigate between lifelines through energetic state management
Synchronicities are navigation signals, not coincidences
When Pendulums Can't Hook You Anymore
Here's where it gets really interesting. Once you understand this model deeply, you start noticing how pendulums test you, fail to hook you, and then simply... let go. Let me share some concrete examples that'll have you nodding in recognition:
The Treasured Thing Test
Someone asks you to return something precious — not for its monetary value, but for what it represents. Maybe it's a gift from an ex, a family heirloom during a dispute, or something earned through years of effort. The pendulum wants you to fight, to defend your right to keep it. But when you offer it back freely, with genuine non-attachment? The person often says, "Never mind, keep it." The pendulum collapses because there's no emotional charge to feed on.
The Social Media Outrage Cycle
Your feed shows something designed to trigger you — political scandal, celebrity drama, or that friend who always posts inflammatory opinions. The pendulum wants your anger, your lengthy comment, your emotional investment. But when you scroll past with genuine indifference (not forced, but actual non-engagement)? The algorithm stops showing you that content. The pendulum literally stops trying.
The Office Drama Vortex
A coworker tries to pull you into gossip about management, complaints about workload, or speculation about layoffs. The pendulum needs your participation to sustain the negative energy field. When you respond with genuine positivity ("I'm focusing on what I can control") without judgment? Watch how quickly they stop coming to you with drama. The pendulum finds easier targets.
The Family Guilt Trap
"You never call enough." "Why don't you visit more?" "Your sister does XYZ for us." The guilt pendulum is ancient and sophisticated. But when you respond with love without defensiveness ("You're right, I'll do better" or "I love you too"), refusing to justify or argue? The complaints often dissolve into genuine connection.
[My neighbor just knocked on my door to complain about something, saw my peaceful state, mumbled something about "never mind," and left. The pendulums are getting real-time demonstration opportunities here...]
The Relationship Test
This one's subtle. Someone from your past reaches out when you've finally found inner peace. They represent old patterns — maybe codependency, drama, or validation-seeking. The pendulum wants you to believe "this time will be different." When you maintain your wholeness without engaging the old dance? They often disappear as mysteriously as they appeared.
The Financial Fear Frequency
Market crash news, inflation reports, recession predictions. The economic fear pendulum wants your anxiety, your obsessive checking, your scarcity mindset. When you maintain abundance consciousness despite external conditions? Opportunities seem to find you while others panic.
The Health Anxiety Loop
Every symptom becomes a potential catastrophe. Dr. Google confirms your worst fears. The hypochondria pendulum feeds on your worry. But when you address health pragmatically without emotional charge? Symptoms often resolve on their own, or you find simple solutions that were always there.
The pattern is always the same: the pendulum creates a scenario designed to generate emotional energy. When you don't provide that energy — not through suppression but through genuine non-attachment — the pendulum has nothing to sustain itself. It moves on to easier prey.
The Void and Personal Pendulums
When you free yourself from all pendulums, you might find yourself in what feels like a desert. Life goes on without you. This is the void — and it's more common than you think.
What the Void Actually Feels Like
Picture this: You've successfully detached from all the drama. You don't engage with political outrage. You've stopped caring about social media validation. Office politics bore you. Family guilt doesn't hook you. You're free!
And then... nothing happens.
Your phone stops buzzing. Drama-loving friends stop calling. You're not invited to gossip sessions. The algorithms stop showing you engaging content because you don't engage. You've become invisible to the pendulums, and suddenly life feels eerily quiet.
[My tea has gone completely cold while writing this. The construction has stopped. In the silence, I can hear my heartbeat. Sometimes the void finds you even when you're not looking for it...]
This is the void — that strange liminal space where you've transcended the old games but haven't yet created new ones. It feels like:
Watching life happen through a window
Being at a party but not really there
Having freedom but no direction
Peace mixed with existential restlessness
The void is necessary but not the final destination. It's the pause between songs, the breath between thoughts, the space where you get to consciously choose what comes next.
Creating Personal Pendulums (The Good Kind)
Here's the key insight: You can't live without pendulums. They're the organizing principles that give life structure and meaning. The trick is creating ones aligned with your true will rather than getting hijacked by destructive ones.
A personal pendulum is essentially a consciously chosen energy structure that you feed with attention and emotion — but one that feeds you back. Think of it as sustainable energy farming rather than vampire feeding.
Examples of Healthy Personal Pendulums:
The Creative Project Pendulum
Instead of feeding the "I'm not good enough" pendulum, you create a book, blog, or art project. You feed it daily with attention and energy. It feeds you back with purpose, growth, and eventually, recognition. This is a pendulum that serves your evolution.
The Fitness Mastery Pendulum
Rather than the health anxiety pendulum, you create a positive relationship with your body. Morning runs, yoga practice, martial arts — whatever calls to you. You feed it discipline and effort. It feeds you vitality and confidence.
The Learning Pendulum
Instead of the "know-it-all" or "imposter syndrome" pendulums, you commit to mastering something new. A language, an instrument, a skill. You feed it curiosity and practice. It feeds you expansion and capability.
The Service Pendulum
Rather than the martyrdom or guilt pendulums, you consciously choose how to serve. Maybe it's mentoring, volunteering, or creating content that helps others. You feed it genuine care. It feeds you meaning and connection.
The Spiritual Practice Pendulum
Instead of spiritual bypassing or "more enlightened than thou" pendulums, you create a genuine practice. Meditation, prayer, energy work — whatever resonates. You feed it consistency. It feeds you depth and presence.
[Just realized I'm describing my own life here. Every project, every practice, every commitment is a consciously chosen pendulum. The difference is I'm aware of the energy exchange...]
The Art of Pendulum Selection
Choosing your pendulums is like choosing your reality tunnel. Each one creates a specific frequency that attracts corresponding experiences. The key questions:
Does this pendulum expand or contract me?
Is the energy exchange sustainable or depleting?
Does it align with who I'm becoming or who I was?
Will engaging with it create the experiences I want?
You know you've chosen well when:
Monday morning feels like possibility, not dread
Your challenges feel meaningful, not arbitrary
Your energy increases through engagement
Others are inspired by your example
Synchronicities multiply around your chosen path
Navigating Between Void and Engagement
The mastery isn't staying in the void or avoiding it entirely. It's learning to dance between emptiness and form, between detachment and engagement. Like breathing — you need both the inhale and the exhale.
Sometimes you need to return to the void to reset, to remember who you are beyond all roles and games. Other times you need to fully engage with your chosen pendulums to create, to serve, to evolve.
The key is conscious choice rather than unconscious reaction. You're not escaping pendulums — you're becoming the conductor of your own energetic orchestra.
Never forget: the mirror will always show you what you're looking for. The universe is infinitely accommodating that way. So choose your pendulums wisely, because they're choosing your reality.
Your Turn
What reality model are you running right now? What face is the universe showing you? More importantly — is it the one you actually want to see?
Try this experiment: For the next 24 hours, assume reality is completely malleable and responding to your energetic state. Notice what changes. Notice what pendulums try to hook you. Notice how different models create different experiences.
Then ask yourself: If I could choose any model, which would serve my highest evolution?
The mirror is waiting for your answer.
Keep bending light and hacking minds,
Cian