{"id":2281,"date":"2020-09-27T20:30:44","date_gmt":"2020-09-28T01:30:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mindhacker.com\/?p=2281"},"modified":"2021-03-27T15:13:28","modified_gmt":"2021-03-27T20:13:28","slug":"the-zen-disease-is-crying-for-a-lost-one-selfish","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mindhacker.com\/2020\/09\/27\/the-zen-disease-is-crying-for-a-lost-one-selfish\/","title":{"rendered":"The Zen Disease: Is crying for a lost one selfish?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
A friend recently told me a story about a monk who said it was selfish for her friend to be mourning the loss of a loved one. She was interested to know what perspective I had on this. What it brought up<\/a> is really a clash of the old and new… Clash of cultures. Have you heard of the Zen Disease?<\/p>\n\n\n\n What I know about enlightenment is this: No matter how high you get, this being that you are part of has FEELINGS.<\/p>\n\n\n\n When you attain enlightenment, there are two potential outcomes. You can use the power of your meta-cognition to subjugate your body, your feelings, and disconnect and fly above it all. It’s very nice. Or, you can use that power to dive down deep into the subconscious and illuminate all the shadow states. You can find out why we behave the way we do and recode that behaviour accordingly. <\/p>\n\n\n\n This is extremely uncomfortable<\/strong>, but also very rewarding. You unwind your personal and ancestral karma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The problem has been, that many traditions encourage the former. Flying above it all. There is in fact a term for it: “The Zen Disease<\/strong>“. What happens is that there is an internal story told that is: “I’m above it all”… Which becomes a very strong belief. And we cannot ever see anything that disagrees with our beliefs so…when there is a trigger in the body they don’t notice it or see it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n They bottle up their unexpressed emotions and traumas in the body until it explodes out one day. But it’s usually behind closed doors, at loved ones. So if these enlightened guys have wives… Well, lookout. They get the brunt of it. And there’s the story that they are holy…so no one sees it. IT’s horrible.<\/p>\n\n\n\nTo Feel or Not To Feel?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
The Body Keeps Score<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
That’s the space this monk is speaking from. That’s his experience of a rigid monastic system that has been designed around NOT triggering anything in the bodies of the enlightened ones<\/a>… Who haven’t dealt with their emotional shit. Think about it. The rituals, the container, the silence, all of it creates a very sparse predictable container that removes any opportunity for a trigger. What I know about triggers is that they don’t go away, they multiply if you run away.<\/p>\n\n\n\nThe Inner Child<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n