{"id":2146,"date":"2020-05-16T20:18:09","date_gmt":"2020-05-16T20:18:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.somewhere.ca\/?p=2146"},"modified":"2021-02-16T10:50:00","modified_gmt":"2021-02-16T15:50:00","slug":"saying-no","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mindhacker.com\/2020\/05\/16\/saying-no\/","title":{"rendered":"SAYING NO – A Reflection by Mr. “Get it done” now MindHacker"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
It is only by saying No that you can concentrate on the things that are really important. – Steve Jobs<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n I used to be really good at getting people to like me. I was Mr. ‘get it done’ and was very agreeable. The dark side of that is that is also involved never saying No to people.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n It was easy, since I was so very effective. I learned the lesson ‘the customer is always right’ very early on, as I started my career in customer service Having the People Pleaser archetype can make one effective very early on<\/strong> – it generates a lot of motivation to please others, and thus you learn the skills necessary to ‘do a good job’.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I got known as the guy who got sh*t done, and it launched my career into the stratosphere.<\/strong> I was a Solutions Architect, leading large cross-functional programs of people before the age of 30.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n Before I knew it, I had competing demands for time, resources, and concepts. If I kept saying yes to all the people I was serving, it would have very drastic consequences.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I had to learn to say No to certain people, at certain times. And I had to take everyone on the journey towards that vision, with me.When you are doing a good job<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Very quickly what happens is that you get known for doing a good job. Leaders, managers, and people who have become effective at leading organizations are always on the lookout for people with this skill, and the People Pleaser archetype.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n
But did the skills that got me there, serve me once there?<\/strong> <\/em>Not a chance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
People Pleasing comes at a cost. Not learning to say No can cost you dearly.<\/strong>
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I was architecting the Next Generation of 911 systems, and it was going to be the pioneer system for all of Canada. So you can imagine that there were a lot of competing desires technically, and politically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Saying Yes to everyone almost lead to complete disaster in the first year. <\/strong>Things dragged on and on, decisions couldn’t get made because there was never a situation where everyone could be happy.
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I had to learn how to have my own vision, my own truth.
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Why not come with me now, and learn to say No, paint a vision for others, and bring them on the journey WITH you?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n